6 Ways to Not ask a girl out.

Asking out a girl is a tough thing. I am sure you can get all kinds of crazy advice on how to ask a girl out, but if you are not a smooth operator. This will help you not be a smooth terminator.
1. Do not get your friend to do it.
Even if you are the best looking guy in the world, she may at first be flattered but this will eventually lead to your friend dating her. Yes and some guys will break the bro code (this topic for another blog).

2.  Do not do it over text.
You need to be able to see her reaction. You need to be able to know if she is about to vomit from the question. I am kidding a little bit here, but there is much to be said about a man who approaches the woman face to face he wants to court. A woman's deepest desire is to know she is delighted in. If from the start you hide behind your cell phone, it does not show confidence in how much you delight in her.

3. Do not ask "will you go out with me?"
In teen lingo this means being boyfriend and girlfriend in a exclusive relationship. If you are just meeting this person for the first time, be sure to say something different, for example "May I have the honor I take you out to a movie and coffee sometime?" When you ask in this way you are making it clear that at this point you are not ready to get serious right away. Relationships are about building friendship between each other and discovering who the other person is. It is about learning to love who they are and not what you want them to be.

4. Refrain from using silly romantic phrases you saw in a movie or heard on Jersey shore.
For example, you are like a stream running through the streets of a big city. (Hey I told you I was not smooth). You do not need to give one liners when your intent is to purely take this girl out on a date to learn about her.

5. Guys, absolutely DO NOT act hard around a girl.
They think you look silly when you walk tall and act too cool. I am not kidding here. You want a way not to impress the girl you want to get to know, then do this. As a teacher at an all boy catholic High School, I cannot tell you how many times I saw this go down. Girls do not want to know how strong or tough you are on the outside. They want to know how strong you are on the inside. This means both spiritually and emotionally. When you are convicted on the inside about your identity as a man, it is communicated on the outside.

6. Know your Intent on why you are asking this girl out.
Basically, know you purpose and the reason for asking a girl out. Girls can read between the lines well. They can pick up on intent very easily. They know when you sound desperate. They know when you want them for physical reasons. Only court a girl whom you intend to cherish and honor as Christ did.