6 Ways to Not ask a girl out.

Asking out a girl is a tough thing. I am sure you can get all kinds of crazy advice on how to ask a girl out, but if you are not a smooth operator. This will help you not be a smooth terminator.
1. Do not get your friend to do it.
Even if you are the best looking guy in the world, she may at first be flattered but this will eventually lead to your friend dating her. Yes and some guys will break the bro code (this topic for another blog).

2.  Do not do it over text.
You need to be able to see her reaction. You need to be able to know if she is about to vomit from the question. I am kidding a little bit here, but there is much to be said about a man who approaches the woman face to face he wants to court. A woman's deepest desire is to know she is delighted in. If from the start you hide behind your cell phone, it does not show confidence in how much you delight in her.

3. Do not ask "will you go out with me?"
In teen lingo this means being boyfriend and girlfriend in a exclusive relationship. If you are just meeting this person for the first time, be sure to say something different, for example "May I have the honor I take you out to a movie and coffee sometime?" When you ask in this way you are making it clear that at this point you are not ready to get serious right away. Relationships are about building friendship between each other and discovering who the other person is. It is about learning to love who they are and not what you want them to be.

4. Refrain from using silly romantic phrases you saw in a movie or heard on Jersey shore.
For example, you are like a stream running through the streets of a big city. (Hey I told you I was not smooth). You do not need to give one liners when your intent is to purely take this girl out on a date to learn about her.

5. Guys, absolutely DO NOT act hard around a girl.
They think you look silly when you walk tall and act too cool. I am not kidding here. You want a way not to impress the girl you want to get to know, then do this. As a teacher at an all boy catholic High School, I cannot tell you how many times I saw this go down. Girls do not want to know how strong or tough you are on the outside. They want to know how strong you are on the inside. This means both spiritually and emotionally. When you are convicted on the inside about your identity as a man, it is communicated on the outside.

6. Know your Intent on why you are asking this girl out.
Basically, know you purpose and the reason for asking a girl out. Girls can read between the lines well. They can pick up on intent very easily. They know when you sound desperate. They know when you want them for physical reasons. Only court a girl whom you intend to cherish and honor as Christ did.

7 THINGS YOU MAY THINK IS A COMPLIMENT BUT IS INSULT!

It is amazing to me the number of times men (not excluding women) put their foots in their mouth. We all have done it at one time. The crazy thing is sometimes it happens even when you do not realize it. Here are seven things to avoid telling a lady. Eventhough you may think you are complimenting her or helping, she will find them as an insult. The way this is set up is the guys statement will be in blue, then in red I will write what she hears. In case you are wondering, Yes I have said all of these.

1. "I understand what it is like to have a weight problem."
"I understand what it is like to be FAT." 

2. "Just more of a woman to love."
"Because you are fat it just means there is more of you to love."
3. "Your Homely."
"You are ugly."
P.S. Never say this I thought this meant you can cook well and keep things in order and clean.

4. "You look pretty today."
 " You only look pretty today."

5. "If I ate as much as you, I would be huge."
"You eat a lot and thank God I dont' because I would look like you." 

6. "When is the baby coming."
No need to say what they are thinking. My advice is do not say anything about it. If you are curious pray that God will take it away. This is just a bad scenario because if she is pregnant she may be feeling big and if she is not, you just pretty much said she is. I am just trying to help.

7. "Girl, you are a beast."
 "You are a crazy big animal."
Ok I admit most of you guys would never call a lady this but every man would agree, if he were called a beast He would love it.

Awakening the Giant

The other night, I had a proud dad moment. I looked at my son in the dining room while I was in the kitchen. I grabbed my wife to give her a big hug and I whispered in her ear, " watch this." I said, "Jeremiah I got mommie! What are you going to do?" My wife chimmed in and said, "Save me Jeremiah!" My son (to my shock) got down from his seat and growled and charged at me with this intent to do whatever it took to save his mom. She picked him up gave him a big hug and I praised him as if he won the superbowl.

It was at this point I realized that God was awakening the giant in my little giant. God has inscribed in each man a desire to be a warrior, a beauty to fight for and adventure to seek. He has placed in each man the ability to Love like him. As Pope John Paul II said " God has assigned a duty to every man, the dignity of every woman." This is not some mere romantic poetry. It is a mission.

My son revealed to me the heart I need to strive for towards this call that is inscribed in my core. This beautiful precious women God has entrusted to my care. What an honor to be given this task. What a risk. What love and admiration God must have for me to bless me with such a gift. I thank God for awakening in through my son the giant that was deep within me longing to come out. Every boy and man longs to be awakened. Now is the time to draw close to him and let the Father awaken the spirit that will set the world ablaze.

This blog is to train boys in becoming men and to help young men discover what God has placed in their hearts. Young men seek to love your brides or future brides as Christ. He is the model husband and even if you are called to be a priest, how befitting is it then to emulate Christ because His Bride becomes yours.

"Husbands Love your wives as Christ loved the Church and gave his life up for her." Ephesians 5:25